See value in what you do!

I have this colleague. He joined us from India a couple of months ago, came in with great energy and a lot of passion. Everything that he did was done with speed, he walked fast, and talked even faster. A real man of action, a guy that I thought I can learn something from.

His intention was to change everything - everything was too slow, to cumbersome, not really efficient. People with whom he worked made too many mistakes, were not good in what they are doing and so on and so on. To describe all his grievances would fill a page.

Now, he took the initiative and started to talk with other around him, still with full of energy.

Then, a couple of weeks back, the air went out of the balloon. Boof. His speed slowed down. He became frustrated, increasingly. He started to complain that things around him didn't matter anymore. That he is here for only two years, so his intend now is to rip down the time and leave. He is not even sure if it is okay to stay in the company. He doesn't see value anymore.

One of my favourite sayings is that "You have to be the change you want to see." When I talk to him about this he is just blaming everything around him, and asks me, how to change? It is a vicious cycle for him. He believes he can change himself, but that external events hold him back. I see him deteriorating, but he is not willing to see that he has to change first, to accept that not everybody is ready to change, when he is not seeing value.

He expects others to change first before he feels happy or energised again. Do you see the contradiction? It is like, you want to change the whole government, because you are unhappy. Cannot. You have to start with yourself first! You control your thoughts, you are the one who decides to see the negatives or the positives around you.

It is sad to see someone like him to slowly go down. May be over time, he will realise what needs to be done, and turn around. In the meantime, I can only challenge his thinking, when we have a conversation. Hoping to trigger the thought, the idea that initiates the change.

What is the message here for the rest? Well, see a value in what you do or change the way you go about it! Two real simple examples. You go to a movie and realise that it is so very boring. Do you stay and "suffer" or do you leave? My opinion? It was your decision to go, so find something that brings value to you in the movie. Some learning, any learning. Or leave before you waste your time! Or, if you buy a book and it is not what you expect. Well, there are people who like the book, otherwise, it wouldn't have been published. So find the nucket that challenges you, something that you can learn from.

If you don't find a value in what you do or purchase - change the way until it works out for you.

(NLP in Asia)

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