Great article about hypnotherapy and stress.
One excerpt:
"Stress is a function of our thought patterns and mindset. Stress can be caused by any number of life experiences, but they are nearly all related to fear. Fear of loss, fear of loss of control, fear of ill health, fear of reproof, fear of discovery, fear of failure and fear of success are only a few of these. In truth, 99.9 percent of the things we fear most will never happen. Personally, I have a terrible fear of winning the Lotto. What will I do?
Stress feeds on inaction. The best way to relieve and dissolve anxiety and stress is to do something. If you fear cancer, heart disease or emphysema from smoking, act—quit smoking. If you have stress about your weight or body condition, act—change your diet and exercise to the extent of your ability. If you have stress because of something that happened 10, 20 or 30 years ago, act—release it, get over it and move on. If your stress is caused by yourself or another, act—let it go, forgive yourself and/or the other person and move on.
Hypnosis and hypnotherapy operate in the realm of the mind. In hypnosis, your mind is free to identify, locate and dissolve almost any stress-causing thought, idea, incident or event. This is true. Not because I say it’s true, but because it is the natural way for your mind to react and heal itself from stress. Sometimes, our mind experiences stress we cannot identify or consciously locate. You might think of this as a lock. Hypnosis can be the key that allows you to unlock the secret and allow your mind to identify and correct the imbalance or conflict."
Don't you think it is time to contact a hypnotherapist for your own stress? (ahh - send me a mail, okay!)
Here is the full article, before it disappears from the web:
"Senior issues, emotional conflicts and stress increase in prevalence and seriousness with age. They are probably the most common issues addressed in hypnosis.
As we view our life and the process of aging from the inside, we see stress doing its worst. We are reminded of two primary “rules of the mind.” The rule of “reaction” states that every thought or idea causes a physical reaction. If we stew and obsess about a particular thought, idea, incident or event in our lives, we will cause a physical manifestation of the emotion. The second rule that comes to mind is the rule of “Emotional Persistence,” which states that if we persist in an emotionally-induced symptom long enough, we tend to cause an organic change. Can it be that we bring on our own illness? If the above is true, then it is also possible for us to bring on our own good health, through positive emotional well-being and attitudes.
Most senior issues can be directly related to stress. Stress, like high blood pressure, is a silent killer. Stress depresses the immune system and robs us of life’s enjoyment. If we can decrease the stress level, we can naturally enjoy life more, avoid negative feelings of depression, and live a longer, better and healthier life. A commercial somewhere used the phrase, “Feel how good it feels to feel good again.”
Stress is a function of our thought patterns and mindset. Stress can be caused by any number of life experiences, but they are nearly all related to fear. Fear of loss, fear of loss of control, fear of ill health, fear of reproof, fear of discovery, fear of failure and fear of success are only a few of these. In truth, 99.9 percent of the things we fear most will never happen. Personally, I have a terrible fear of winning the Lotto. What will I do?
Stress feeds on inaction. The best way to relieve and dissolve anxiety and stress is to do something. If you fear cancer, heart disease or emphysema from smoking, act—quit smoking. If you have stress about your weight or body condition, act—change your diet and exercise to the extent of your ability. If you have stress because of something that happened 10, 20 or 30 years ago, act—release it, get over it and move on. If your stress is caused by yourself or another, act—let it go, forgive yourself and/or the other person and move on.
Hypnosis and hypnotherapy operate in the realm of the mind. In hypnosis, your mind is free to identify, locate and dissolve almost any stress-causing thought, idea, incident or event. This is true. Not because I say it’s true, but because it is the natural way for your mind to react and heal itself from stress. Sometimes, our mind experiences stress we cannot identify or consciously locate. You might think of this as a lock. Hypnosis can be the key that allows you to unlock the secret and allow your mind to identify and correct the imbalance or conflict.
It is as though you’ve been running a race; in a big, heavy, canvas diver’s suit, with iron boots and a heavy, brass diving helmet, with only three tiny windows. The diver’s suit is so much a part of you that you don’t even realize you have it on. In hypnosis, you can look in the mirror. Your creative imagination will immediately offer an alternative to your diver’s suit, and you can be free of the burden. You made that heavy thing, and only you can unmake it. Breathe the cool, fresh air again. Feel the refreshing breeze on your skin. Leave the stress behind—you don’t need it. Hypnotherapy can be the key."
Sad is that the author is another hypnotherapist and not a "user" or reporter". Anyway, at least he has the space in a newspaper to create awareness for hypnotherapy. Why do I say so? Because hypnotherapy still has not got the space that it deserves.
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Friday, July 28, 2006
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
Zombies in your head
I have been fascinated lately, just looking at people. Looking into their eyes and seeing different things. Fear, confusion, weariness, or, alternatively, confidence, energy, fun, passion and compassion.
How does this happen that there are so many people look differently at the world, have different perception of the world?
It is the way we evaluate the events that come to us and enter our body through the different senses. We classify, organise and segment those events and then, finally, judge them, according to what we perceive to be true.
There was a time, when this was different. When nothing hold you back, when anyone just goes for it. A time, when it didn't matter that you fall on your backside when you started to learn something new. When curiosity drove your behaviour.
This was the time before school, before educational rules and regulations, before all the "Don't do this" and "don't do that" of uncles and aunties. A care-free time.
Over time, neurochemicals and electrical activity in your mind started to implement filters on your world. You learnt to distort, generalise and delete incoming information. Your mind had to do it, because simply, you would be overwhelmed if it wouldn't do it. There are two million bits of information per second that the brain has to come to terms with - information from your internal and external world.
The brain is not able to hold onto all the information at once, but need to impose order onto it. Especially since it can only hold 7 +/- 2 pieces of information at any one time, equivalent about 134 kb!! Imagine that! From 2 million bits of information down to 134 kb. You do the math, will you? Than you know how much is taken away.
So the brain imposes an order onto it - so what? I talked about filters above, and that these filters determine how we see, and evaluate the world and label our experiences. the 134 kbs that are left are the way we see the world.
What is the impact? Ever wondered why people describe the same event differently? Be it a car accident, be it a movie, be it a political situation.
That is the way they look at the world and how they filter information!
That is the impact of these zombies in your head. It is so very easy to see the different filters at work, when someone writes blogs.
If someone has been trained to see things in a negative or positive light or even with hate, everything is negative, positive or hateful. If someone was told, often enough, that he or she is a no good, sure they doubt themselves, are constantly worried or question their own behaviour.
There is nothing wrong with that, that is not what I am saying. But the challenge is to understand and possibly change those limited beliefs - they are holding us - you, me and everyone else - back in our development.
They are like clusters in our mind. They are the zombies in our mind that question our actions. The zombies that don't allow us to see the miracles all around us. The zombies that are hiding from our discovery because they are burried deep, deep inside of our mind, even so they are so visible in all your actions, behaviours, words and values.
The zombies that I can see when I look into your eyes, because that is how you look at the world. May be to be fascinated is the wrong word then. More, a sadness inside of me because there is always, always so much greatness inside all humans. Onle that this greatness has been burried by limited beliefs that hold us back.
(Addition: The intention of this entry is to indicate belief systems in other blogs as I perceive them to be. I am not judging those blog entries or their owners and in fact, value the authors by opening up their values to others. They are asking the right questions and are on the way to see positive change in their world.
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How does this happen that there are so many people look differently at the world, have different perception of the world?
It is the way we evaluate the events that come to us and enter our body through the different senses. We classify, organise and segment those events and then, finally, judge them, according to what we perceive to be true.
There was a time, when this was different. When nothing hold you back, when anyone just goes for it. A time, when it didn't matter that you fall on your backside when you started to learn something new. When curiosity drove your behaviour.
This was the time before school, before educational rules and regulations, before all the "Don't do this" and "don't do that" of uncles and aunties. A care-free time.
Over time, neurochemicals and electrical activity in your mind started to implement filters on your world. You learnt to distort, generalise and delete incoming information. Your mind had to do it, because simply, you would be overwhelmed if it wouldn't do it. There are two million bits of information per second that the brain has to come to terms with - information from your internal and external world.
The brain is not able to hold onto all the information at once, but need to impose order onto it. Especially since it can only hold 7 +/- 2 pieces of information at any one time, equivalent about 134 kb!! Imagine that! From 2 million bits of information down to 134 kb. You do the math, will you? Than you know how much is taken away.
So the brain imposes an order onto it - so what? I talked about filters above, and that these filters determine how we see, and evaluate the world and label our experiences. the 134 kbs that are left are the way we see the world.
What is the impact? Ever wondered why people describe the same event differently? Be it a car accident, be it a movie, be it a political situation.
That is the way they look at the world and how they filter information!
That is the impact of these zombies in your head. It is so very easy to see the different filters at work, when someone writes blogs.
If someone has been trained to see things in a negative or positive light or even with hate, everything is negative, positive or hateful. If someone was told, often enough, that he or she is a no good, sure they doubt themselves, are constantly worried or question their own behaviour.
There is nothing wrong with that, that is not what I am saying. But the challenge is to understand and possibly change those limited beliefs - they are holding us - you, me and everyone else - back in our development.
They are like clusters in our mind. They are the zombies in our mind that question our actions. The zombies that don't allow us to see the miracles all around us. The zombies that are hiding from our discovery because they are burried deep, deep inside of our mind, even so they are so visible in all your actions, behaviours, words and values.
The zombies that I can see when I look into your eyes, because that is how you look at the world. May be to be fascinated is the wrong word then. More, a sadness inside of me because there is always, always so much greatness inside all humans. Onle that this greatness has been burried by limited beliefs that hold us back.
(Addition: The intention of this entry is to indicate belief systems in other blogs as I perceive them to be. I am not judging those blog entries or their owners and in fact, value the authors by opening up their values to others. They are asking the right questions and are on the way to see positive change in their world.
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Of Bomohs and hypnosis
Last week, the NewsStraits Times published an article about "gullible" victimes who fall prey to some out for quick money.
First of all, it is the victim's belief that makes them not seeing the obvious, but believe those that are out to harm them. When you believe it, you will see it. As simple as that. If you believe the world is bad, you will see the bad things all around you. If you believe the world is good, you start to see the things that are positive and bright side of life. It is, of course not easy to change a lifelong belief just by changing the thought alone. That means those people that had sex with bomohs to get rid of evil spirits really believed in it, despite everything that was told. Hey - Bill Gates had to see the importance of the Internet before he embarked on it.
Once upon a time, there were people that believed the world is flat and that, if you go out too far, you can fall down from the plate. Remember, that may be a while ago, you still believed in Santa Claus (sorry for those that still believe it: he doesn't exist. There were resembling characters a long time ago, so!).
Anyway - let's go back to the bomohs. A common belief might be that these victims were hypnotised. Not true.
A nice description is this one:
"Fact is that hypnosis is a genuine psychological phenomenon that leads a person into a highly focused state of concentration and attention, often associated with relaxation and suggestibility.
People in hypnosis remain in control of themselves and wouldn't do anything they would normally find morally objectionable. All hypnosis is actually self hypnosis with the hypnotherapist acting as a guide to direct your concentration toward the area of change that a person wishes to work on. It's important to remember that hypnosis is not magic, but instead a tool that when used properly over time, can help people break unhealthy habits, overcome insomnia, recall memories and as an anesthetic for managing pain."
It is bad enough that these people have been cheated, really. It is a lesson hard learnt and I hope they got the lesson. But, whatever you believe, it is not hypnosis.
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First of all, it is the victim's belief that makes them not seeing the obvious, but believe those that are out to harm them. When you believe it, you will see it. As simple as that. If you believe the world is bad, you will see the bad things all around you. If you believe the world is good, you start to see the things that are positive and bright side of life. It is, of course not easy to change a lifelong belief just by changing the thought alone. That means those people that had sex with bomohs to get rid of evil spirits really believed in it, despite everything that was told. Hey - Bill Gates had to see the importance of the Internet before he embarked on it.
Once upon a time, there were people that believed the world is flat and that, if you go out too far, you can fall down from the plate. Remember, that may be a while ago, you still believed in Santa Claus (sorry for those that still believe it: he doesn't exist. There were resembling characters a long time ago, so!).
Anyway - let's go back to the bomohs. A common belief might be that these victims were hypnotised. Not true.
A nice description is this one:
"Fact is that hypnosis is a genuine psychological phenomenon that leads a person into a highly focused state of concentration and attention, often associated with relaxation and suggestibility.
People in hypnosis remain in control of themselves and wouldn't do anything they would normally find morally objectionable. All hypnosis is actually self hypnosis with the hypnotherapist acting as a guide to direct your concentration toward the area of change that a person wishes to work on. It's important to remember that hypnosis is not magic, but instead a tool that when used properly over time, can help people break unhealthy habits, overcome insomnia, recall memories and as an anesthetic for managing pain."
It is bad enough that these people have been cheated, really. It is a lesson hard learnt and I hope they got the lesson. But, whatever you believe, it is not hypnosis.
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Thursday, July 20, 2006
Mind power can beat pain
An article about a hypnotherapist in the UK.
"An Ipswich man who believes mind power can conquer anything, and watched him in action. Plagued by chronic pain in his legs, pensioner Ron Page was at his wits' end.Respite from the agony came only when he was asleep and even then it was only ever a matter of hours before the constant ache became so bad that it woke him up again. Heavy duty pain-killers prescribed to him by doctors failed to stop the involuntary twitching in his legs and courses of acupuncture proved futile. Believing that nothing could solve the problem it was in sheer desperation that he decided to give Ipswich-based hypnotherapist Jason Newland a try.
Arthritis sufferer Ron Page “A friend of mine saw his card in the post office and told me about it,” said Ron.“I just thought I might as well give it a go as I've tried everything else - acupuncture, a chiropractor. “This is a last resort really!” For six weeks Jason has been visiting Ron in his Norwich Road home, and he invited us along to watch a session.
Sitting in his wheelchair, Ron closed his eyes as Jason's soothing voice took hold. Slowly and calmly Jason asked Ron to relax, to listen to all the noises around him and feel them fading in to the background. Once Ron was completely still he asked him to feel the pain in his foot and to give it a colour and a shape. “A blue square,” Ron murmured in a drowsy voice. “Good,” said Jason. “Now change it in to another colour and shape.
”This routine was repeated several times before Jason eventually asked him to imagine that shape being frozen and turning in to a block of ice. In Ron's mind this 'ice' was then left to sit in a garden and melt away in the sunshine before Jason slowly brought him out of his trance-like state. Although looking slightly bleary-eyed, Ron was immediately able to talk coherently about the experience. “You don't feel that you're just gone,” he said. “I can hear him talking and I can hear noises in the room, but you just relax and focus on his voice and forget about everything else.”
Jason explained: “Some people would call it a trance, but it's really a state of absolute relaxation.“All the background noises are still there. It's very much like when you are on a beach sunbathing and you're completely relaxed. You can still hear all the noises around you, but you might sort of jolt awake. “I get people to visualise their pain in different ways, to see it as a colour or as a shape, and to then visualise that shape moving away from their body. That way they are using a different sensory organ and everything is not focused on the actual physical pain.”
In Ron's case, the problems with his right leg began years ago and, despite a major operation, have never really gone away. He said: “Initially they thought it was to do with a trapped nerve but I've developed arthritis in my ankle now. I used to do a lot of sports years ago and I think that's taken its toll.
“The pain starts in my ankle and spreads across the top of my foot and up through my leg, and because I haven't been able to get about as much, both of my ankles get swollen.” Ron, 74, can't walk far, but can get up to answer his door, and manage the stairs in his house.He admits he was cynical about hypnotherapy but has been genuinely surprised by the quick results.
“The pain is not as bad as it was. I used to sit here and every now and again my leg would jump.“The muscles go into spasms and I can't control it, which is really painful, but over the last few weeks that seems to have stopped. I can now sit here without it twitching all the time.“I really notice the difference at night too.
It used to start twitching as soon as I laid down when I went to bed but that's got much better. I can actually get a good night's sleep now and that hasn't happened for ages.“I know it's not going to be 100 per cent perfect and that I'm never going to be able to get up and run again, but it helps relieve things.”For Jason, 35, seeing the change in Ron has been hugely rewarding. The practising Buddhist, who works in insurance during the day, has chosen to offer his services free-of-charge.“People always ask me why I'm doing it for free,” said Jason.
“They're very cynical about why I don't want to make any money out of it, but I'm a Buddhist and believe very strongly in giving something to someone without getting anything back from it.“Seeing the reactions and the difference in people I treat is enough reward for me.
”Recognising the limits of his hypnotic ability is also important for Jason. “I believe I can help anyone, but what I have to stress to people is that I'm not a doctor, I can't get rid of the causes of pain altogether. “I will only perform hypnotherapy on someone who has checked that their doctor is happy with it first.“The first time I came round here his ankle was so swollen that all I did was some relaxation techniques. “I didn't want to focus on his leg or the pain there until he had been to the doctor and checked that it would be okay for him to see me.”
Jason, of Hadleigh Road, has been practising hypnotherapy for many years and has qualified as a Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) which brings together lots of different therapies, including hypnotherapy.
He said: “Everyone has feelings of confidence and relaxation in them somewhere and what I do is give them a short cut to tap into them. It's a bit like a computer - all those emotions are there on the hard drive but you need some way of accessing them quickly. ”In recent months he has started has decided offering hypnotherapy free of charge, and is building up a core of clients with wideranging problems.
He said: “One lady I have been seeing is preparing for a major operation and is absolutely petrified at the thought of it, so we have been working on relaxation techniques. Another man was going in to hospital for some invasive medical procedures and I actually worked with him in the hospital to help calm him down. I've also helped people prepare for driving tests and overcome a fear of flying.”While Jason's hypnotherapy work is currently restricted to evenings and weekends his ultimate aim is to use his skills within hospitals. He said: “The NHS is becoming much more open to alternative therapies and I really believe that I could help a lot of people.”
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"An Ipswich man who believes mind power can conquer anything, and watched him in action. Plagued by chronic pain in his legs, pensioner Ron Page was at his wits' end.Respite from the agony came only when he was asleep and even then it was only ever a matter of hours before the constant ache became so bad that it woke him up again. Heavy duty pain-killers prescribed to him by doctors failed to stop the involuntary twitching in his legs and courses of acupuncture proved futile. Believing that nothing could solve the problem it was in sheer desperation that he decided to give Ipswich-based hypnotherapist Jason Newland a try.
Arthritis sufferer Ron Page “A friend of mine saw his card in the post office and told me about it,” said Ron.“I just thought I might as well give it a go as I've tried everything else - acupuncture, a chiropractor. “This is a last resort really!” For six weeks Jason has been visiting Ron in his Norwich Road home, and he invited us along to watch a session.
Sitting in his wheelchair, Ron closed his eyes as Jason's soothing voice took hold. Slowly and calmly Jason asked Ron to relax, to listen to all the noises around him and feel them fading in to the background. Once Ron was completely still he asked him to feel the pain in his foot and to give it a colour and a shape. “A blue square,” Ron murmured in a drowsy voice. “Good,” said Jason. “Now change it in to another colour and shape.
”This routine was repeated several times before Jason eventually asked him to imagine that shape being frozen and turning in to a block of ice. In Ron's mind this 'ice' was then left to sit in a garden and melt away in the sunshine before Jason slowly brought him out of his trance-like state. Although looking slightly bleary-eyed, Ron was immediately able to talk coherently about the experience. “You don't feel that you're just gone,” he said. “I can hear him talking and I can hear noises in the room, but you just relax and focus on his voice and forget about everything else.”
Jason explained: “Some people would call it a trance, but it's really a state of absolute relaxation.“All the background noises are still there. It's very much like when you are on a beach sunbathing and you're completely relaxed. You can still hear all the noises around you, but you might sort of jolt awake. “I get people to visualise their pain in different ways, to see it as a colour or as a shape, and to then visualise that shape moving away from their body. That way they are using a different sensory organ and everything is not focused on the actual physical pain.”
In Ron's case, the problems with his right leg began years ago and, despite a major operation, have never really gone away. He said: “Initially they thought it was to do with a trapped nerve but I've developed arthritis in my ankle now. I used to do a lot of sports years ago and I think that's taken its toll.
“The pain starts in my ankle and spreads across the top of my foot and up through my leg, and because I haven't been able to get about as much, both of my ankles get swollen.” Ron, 74, can't walk far, but can get up to answer his door, and manage the stairs in his house.He admits he was cynical about hypnotherapy but has been genuinely surprised by the quick results.
“The pain is not as bad as it was. I used to sit here and every now and again my leg would jump.“The muscles go into spasms and I can't control it, which is really painful, but over the last few weeks that seems to have stopped. I can now sit here without it twitching all the time.“I really notice the difference at night too.
It used to start twitching as soon as I laid down when I went to bed but that's got much better. I can actually get a good night's sleep now and that hasn't happened for ages.“I know it's not going to be 100 per cent perfect and that I'm never going to be able to get up and run again, but it helps relieve things.”For Jason, 35, seeing the change in Ron has been hugely rewarding. The practising Buddhist, who works in insurance during the day, has chosen to offer his services free-of-charge.“People always ask me why I'm doing it for free,” said Jason.
“They're very cynical about why I don't want to make any money out of it, but I'm a Buddhist and believe very strongly in giving something to someone without getting anything back from it.“Seeing the reactions and the difference in people I treat is enough reward for me.
”Recognising the limits of his hypnotic ability is also important for Jason. “I believe I can help anyone, but what I have to stress to people is that I'm not a doctor, I can't get rid of the causes of pain altogether. “I will only perform hypnotherapy on someone who has checked that their doctor is happy with it first.“The first time I came round here his ankle was so swollen that all I did was some relaxation techniques. “I didn't want to focus on his leg or the pain there until he had been to the doctor and checked that it would be okay for him to see me.”
Jason, of Hadleigh Road, has been practising hypnotherapy for many years and has qualified as a Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) which brings together lots of different therapies, including hypnotherapy.
He said: “Everyone has feelings of confidence and relaxation in them somewhere and what I do is give them a short cut to tap into them. It's a bit like a computer - all those emotions are there on the hard drive but you need some way of accessing them quickly. ”In recent months he has started has decided offering hypnotherapy free of charge, and is building up a core of clients with wideranging problems.
He said: “One lady I have been seeing is preparing for a major operation and is absolutely petrified at the thought of it, so we have been working on relaxation techniques. Another man was going in to hospital for some invasive medical procedures and I actually worked with him in the hospital to help calm him down. I've also helped people prepare for driving tests and overcome a fear of flying.”While Jason's hypnotherapy work is currently restricted to evenings and weekends his ultimate aim is to use his skills within hospitals. He said: “The NHS is becoming much more open to alternative therapies and I really believe that I could help a lot of people.”
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Wednesday, July 19, 2006
Getting inside their head with writing
It is so important to get the message right in whatever you write. You know why? Look at the way you read your mails. Somehow along the line, we are not trained to speed read or to capture the whole meaning of a document in its whole.
Instead, we are reading word, by word, by word. Some read faster, some read slower but all we do is to repeat the message with the voice in our head. So right now, you were reading "most of us repeat the message with the voice in our head."
Who is the person you, or your subconscious mind, believes most? Most of you will say - "I trust me, I believe me."
Now, when you read the text, the message or the voice of the author is in your mind. Silently, you repeat his message, the message of the author.
How powerful, if the message that is stated on the paper/ screen/ mobile phone is strong and convincing. The writer's voice or intention is in the reader's mind.
Wah ---- Imagine that.
That is where hypnotic language comes in. If you are able to write a message hypnotically, your message goes straight into the recipient's mind. And the mind is than not listening to some boring salesperson, but to its "owner." This is happening with messages that are not even covered up - but those that stare at you, in black and white, from the page or the screen in front of you.
Interesting, isn't it?
So, the challenge of course is to know what makes the recipient tick before you embark on writing a mail, SMS or letter.
What is driving the recipient? It is easy to see when you had have a conversation with the recipient already - you give back their words, in one way or another. Why? Because that is the way they wrote it to you, duh! Change it a bit here and there but when you find something that seems important to them, give it back to them.
These are the words that they liked. So why not repeating them?
If you do not know their style, still, you want to be careful about your writing style. You can use hypnotic language patterns to get the message across, because this will surely work. Don't you think?
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Instead, we are reading word, by word, by word. Some read faster, some read slower but all we do is to repeat the message with the voice in our head. So right now, you were reading "most of us repeat the message with the voice in our head."
Who is the person you, or your subconscious mind, believes most? Most of you will say - "I trust me, I believe me."
Now, when you read the text, the message or the voice of the author is in your mind. Silently, you repeat his message, the message of the author.
How powerful, if the message that is stated on the paper/ screen/ mobile phone is strong and convincing. The writer's voice or intention is in the reader's mind.
Wah ---- Imagine that.
That is where hypnotic language comes in. If you are able to write a message hypnotically, your message goes straight into the recipient's mind. And the mind is than not listening to some boring salesperson, but to its "owner." This is happening with messages that are not even covered up - but those that stare at you, in black and white, from the page or the screen in front of you.
Interesting, isn't it?
So, the challenge of course is to know what makes the recipient tick before you embark on writing a mail, SMS or letter.
What is driving the recipient? It is easy to see when you had have a conversation with the recipient already - you give back their words, in one way or another. Why? Because that is the way they wrote it to you, duh! Change it a bit here and there but when you find something that seems important to them, give it back to them.
These are the words that they liked. So why not repeating them?
If you do not know their style, still, you want to be careful about your writing style. You can use hypnotic language patterns to get the message across, because this will surely work. Don't you think?
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Monday, July 17, 2006
NLP trainings and the way forward to overcome pain
When I went to the NLP training last weekend, I recognised two main things.
The first is that the participants were willing to change. They realised that they have to change something in their life - and the life of the loved ones, may be - and in their own. This is important.
I also found out that they had a lot of limited beliefs before joining the training, and I believe that they are not alone in this world with their limited beliefs. There were comments from participants about how the felt small and insignificant before the training, how much anger was inside of them, how they lacked confidence, or how they didn't know where to go.
Many, many felt relieved in the end of the training and new that they had initiated changes. That was the good part. Trainings in Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP have the ability to transform personalities and give participants what they need and searched for.
I did my original training with NLP about two years back and I still feel it vibrating in my veins, and how it still helps me to transform my life on a constant basis (how else could I coach with NLP?). The requirements after any training is that you use what you learnt immediately. Even NLP, and even if NLP has been pushed down to a cellular level. The good part for me was that my trainer pushed it down via hypnotic sessions and that all what I learnt is still available to me when I need it - and comes out stronger and stronger and I get better and better.
The difference to other trainings is that NLP trainings leave a lasting impression and they enable participants to become flexible in any situation. Situations change, any minute of any day. It is most important to be flexible many times a day in your attitude and ultimately, in your behaviour towards yourself and others.
The difference to other trainings is that those trainings (e.g.; "traditional" sales trainings, self-help trainings) leave a script behind that participants can use. The challenge is that those scripts need changing based on contexts of situations - a one side fits all never helps. But, however, participants often only learn one set for many different situations.
Still there are challenges in NLP trainings. For the time being, the participants will move on with their life, and feel greatly empowered. Many will try to use NLP techniques in their life, personal or business. That is the wrong approach. NLP is not a technique to use, but a way to see the world with different eyes, endless curiosity and greater understanding. If participants understand this, they will go a long way.
It starts by understanding the pain that they are carrying within themselves and to learn just to let go. They have the tools, of course, and the patterns to apply. They now just need to use it more and more to live and regenerate their new life. Which means, for many, that there are great changes ahead - and change is always a lot of fun.
Those that I trained with, earlier, and that used NLP in their life experienced great changes. Some were promoted, others became self-employed, others found themselves and became very successful with their own identity and so on. They are the living proof that NLP works.
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The first is that the participants were willing to change. They realised that they have to change something in their life - and the life of the loved ones, may be - and in their own. This is important.
I also found out that they had a lot of limited beliefs before joining the training, and I believe that they are not alone in this world with their limited beliefs. There were comments from participants about how the felt small and insignificant before the training, how much anger was inside of them, how they lacked confidence, or how they didn't know where to go.
Many, many felt relieved in the end of the training and new that they had initiated changes. That was the good part. Trainings in Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP have the ability to transform personalities and give participants what they need and searched for.
I did my original training with NLP about two years back and I still feel it vibrating in my veins, and how it still helps me to transform my life on a constant basis (how else could I coach with NLP?). The requirements after any training is that you use what you learnt immediately. Even NLP, and even if NLP has been pushed down to a cellular level. The good part for me was that my trainer pushed it down via hypnotic sessions and that all what I learnt is still available to me when I need it - and comes out stronger and stronger and I get better and better.
The difference to other trainings is that NLP trainings leave a lasting impression and they enable participants to become flexible in any situation. Situations change, any minute of any day. It is most important to be flexible many times a day in your attitude and ultimately, in your behaviour towards yourself and others.
The difference to other trainings is that those trainings (e.g.; "traditional" sales trainings, self-help trainings) leave a script behind that participants can use. The challenge is that those scripts need changing based on contexts of situations - a one side fits all never helps. But, however, participants often only learn one set for many different situations.
Still there are challenges in NLP trainings. For the time being, the participants will move on with their life, and feel greatly empowered. Many will try to use NLP techniques in their life, personal or business. That is the wrong approach. NLP is not a technique to use, but a way to see the world with different eyes, endless curiosity and greater understanding. If participants understand this, they will go a long way.
It starts by understanding the pain that they are carrying within themselves and to learn just to let go. They have the tools, of course, and the patterns to apply. They now just need to use it more and more to live and regenerate their new life. Which means, for many, that there are great changes ahead - and change is always a lot of fun.
Those that I trained with, earlier, and that used NLP in their life experienced great changes. Some were promoted, others became self-employed, others found themselves and became very successful with their own identity and so on. They are the living proof that NLP works.
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Thursday, July 13, 2006
Zizou's head-butt
I wonder, I really wonder.
Apparently, Zizou's (shortform for Zinedine Zidane) coach said that he understands Zizou's head-butt against his Italian opponent in the world-cup final France against Italy. It was just a few minutes left to the end of the game and Zizou would have been one of those guys needed for the upcoming penalty shootout. So he was send off.
France lost 5 : 3 in the end. If Zinedine Zidane would have been around, the mental health of his team would have been stronger and surely, the chances of him missing a penalty are slim.
He is highly paid, and he has a coach.
But what coach is he that he understands this action? I can understand a lot and a lot was going on in the final minutes of the game. Zidane was offended, and constantly insulted by his opponent. His pride was at stake, for sure and his mother, wife and sister badly insulted.
But in the end, he is responsible for the outcome he achieves. He choose to hit out.
In any thing that is happening, there is always a cause and an effect. A simple function of C/E. If you are feeling subjected to forces outside of you, that you blame are outside of your influence (government, sport, employer, client, school, you name it), you are at the effect side - the results of something. Something that you say you have no control over. What those "things" do to you is "making you sick", "they are unfair", "they treat you badly", "you gotta get back to them", and so on. Poor thing - you are living your life as a subject to something.
It is hard to do, but way more rewarding to say - I take responsibilty, I am 100% in charge of my life, I am designing my life, I change what I can change, I am not a blamer but will have the attitute, the strength and the integrity to do what I can do to make my life better.
Hey - simply, to make your life a WoW!
That means that while it might hurt badly to be insulted, to have your wife, kids, sister and mother getting insulted, not to go down to that low level, but walk proudly and strong and unaffected. Concentrating on what I want to achieve. In Zizou's case - he wanted to hold the World Cup in his hands. He should have focussed on that only and nothing else. Sure, it was hard, very hard, but then, isn't it even harder now?
So a coach shouldn't understand such behaviour, but get rid of it. Move his patient, player, whatever, to the Cause Side of things, and away of feeling exposed to circumstances that are away from your potential influence. To design the life and be powerful in times of adversity. Or, simply, to win the World Cup.
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Apparently, Zizou's (shortform for Zinedine Zidane) coach said that he understands Zizou's head-butt against his Italian opponent in the world-cup final France against Italy. It was just a few minutes left to the end of the game and Zizou would have been one of those guys needed for the upcoming penalty shootout. So he was send off.
France lost 5 : 3 in the end. If Zinedine Zidane would have been around, the mental health of his team would have been stronger and surely, the chances of him missing a penalty are slim.
He is highly paid, and he has a coach.
But what coach is he that he understands this action? I can understand a lot and a lot was going on in the final minutes of the game. Zidane was offended, and constantly insulted by his opponent. His pride was at stake, for sure and his mother, wife and sister badly insulted.
But in the end, he is responsible for the outcome he achieves. He choose to hit out.
In any thing that is happening, there is always a cause and an effect. A simple function of C/E. If you are feeling subjected to forces outside of you, that you blame are outside of your influence (government, sport, employer, client, school, you name it), you are at the effect side - the results of something. Something that you say you have no control over. What those "things" do to you is "making you sick", "they are unfair", "they treat you badly", "you gotta get back to them", and so on. Poor thing - you are living your life as a subject to something.
It is hard to do, but way more rewarding to say - I take responsibilty, I am 100% in charge of my life, I am designing my life, I change what I can change, I am not a blamer but will have the attitute, the strength and the integrity to do what I can do to make my life better.
Hey - simply, to make your life a WoW!
That means that while it might hurt badly to be insulted, to have your wife, kids, sister and mother getting insulted, not to go down to that low level, but walk proudly and strong and unaffected. Concentrating on what I want to achieve. In Zizou's case - he wanted to hold the World Cup in his hands. He should have focussed on that only and nothing else. Sure, it was hard, very hard, but then, isn't it even harder now?
So a coach shouldn't understand such behaviour, but get rid of it. Move his patient, player, whatever, to the Cause Side of things, and away of feeling exposed to circumstances that are away from your potential influence. To design the life and be powerful in times of adversity. Or, simply, to win the World Cup.
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Tuesday, July 11, 2006
What training participants said: This makes me proud
I am not a natural when it comes to blowing my horn about my success but here is something that I like to share.
Comments from my recent training participants from my company (my current "daytime job"):
"You are a very good trainer. Many thanks that you involved me in the NLP training. Really appreciated it and hope that we could have more this kind of training in future."
Participant from the IT Department
I really enjoyed the training and I think it really can add value to the team and also to me personally.
General Manager - Asian Region
"I am using "the tools" shared and we’ve been openly analyzing ourselves among colleagues."
Senior Manager
"It changed the way I look at the world. from yesterday onwards, I will be more observant and try to analyze other people more… Will also at a more conscious state when I move my body….body language will be more or less affected and I now know why my brother-in-law likes to look at the ceiling when I asked him questions."
Manager
"I basically liked all the training subject – the contents, the way they were presented and “role play”.
Manager
There are more comments on applicatbility of the training to team building, internal and external communication and so on, but these are the ones that fit best in here.
They are great affirmations that I am on my way!
I will expand this entry, since it is also good to read positive things when things don't work out that way and sometimes, they don't do. This then is the time where I need those comments.
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Comments from my recent training participants from my company (my current "daytime job"):
"You are a very good trainer. Many thanks that you involved me in the NLP training. Really appreciated it and hope that we could have more this kind of training in future."
Participant from the IT Department
I really enjoyed the training and I think it really can add value to the team and also to me personally.
General Manager - Asian Region
"I am using "the tools" shared and we’ve been openly analyzing ourselves among colleagues."
Senior Manager
"It changed the way I look at the world. from yesterday onwards, I will be more observant and try to analyze other people more… Will also at a more conscious state when I move my body….body language will be more or less affected and I now know why my brother-in-law likes to look at the ceiling when I asked him questions."
Manager
"I basically liked all the training subject – the contents, the way they were presented and “role play”.
Manager
There are more comments on applicatbility of the training to team building, internal and external communication and so on, but these are the ones that fit best in here.
They are great affirmations that I am on my way!
I will expand this entry, since it is also good to read positive things when things don't work out that way and sometimes, they don't do. This then is the time where I need those comments.
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Wednesday, July 05, 2006
Facilitator in NLP Certification Training
Hello and yuchee.
It is always fun to be acknowledged in an area of great interest, which, for me, is Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP.
I have been invited by KL Success Shop and Power Events Asia to be a facilitator in a training for a NLP Practitioner Certification that takes place in Melaka. Sadly, I am only able to join them from tomorrow onwards, while the course started yesterday. Nevertheless, it is a great opportunity for me - in fact, a fantastic opportunity, considering that the light keeps shining on my future path.
I will facilitate the training of Dr. William D. Horton, one of the leading trainers in NLP in the US, and now also internationally. He is promoted as "the founder of the National Federation of Neurolinguistic Psychology, NFNLP, one of the fastest growing organizations for NLPers in the world. NFNLP serves as a network for professionals who use NLP to share experiences, new techniques and applications, and other useful information from their fields of expertise. NFNLP and Dr. Horton have changed the face of NLP forever."
A couple of great days ahead of me.
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It is always fun to be acknowledged in an area of great interest, which, for me, is Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP.
I have been invited by KL Success Shop and Power Events Asia to be a facilitator in a training for a NLP Practitioner Certification that takes place in Melaka. Sadly, I am only able to join them from tomorrow onwards, while the course started yesterday. Nevertheless, it is a great opportunity for me - in fact, a fantastic opportunity, considering that the light keeps shining on my future path.
I will facilitate the training of Dr. William D. Horton, one of the leading trainers in NLP in the US, and now also internationally. He is promoted as "the founder of the National Federation of Neurolinguistic Psychology, NFNLP, one of the fastest growing organizations for NLPers in the world. NFNLP serves as a network for professionals who use NLP to share experiences, new techniques and applications, and other useful information from their fields of expertise. NFNLP and Dr. Horton have changed the face of NLP forever."
A couple of great days ahead of me.
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Man emerges from coma
Most people say that this is impossible - that someone emerges from a coma that lasted 19 years. Here, it happens and I am happy for the man, so rehabilitation will be tough. Imagine the change that the world underwent in the last 19 years, from the emergence of the Internet to 9/11 to oil crises and more.
Congratulations to Terry Wallis.
Doctors say that his brain was methodically rebuilding white matter, the infrastructure necessary to interact with the outside world - a very slow self-healing process.
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Congratulations to Terry Wallis.
Doctors say that his brain was methodically rebuilding white matter, the infrastructure necessary to interact with the outside world - a very slow self-healing process.
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Tuesday, July 04, 2006
Power of the mind in fighting dis-eases
It amazes me over and over again to read stories of how people have beaten dis-eases that are usually proclaimed as deadly. Cancer is just one of those that I want to mention and of which many, many people think it is deadly.
These dis-eases are then often beaten by using the power of the mind together with a major change in lifestyle. Are these accidents only? Is the power of the mind THAT powerful?
Well, why not believe it? This question is the main challenge to beating your challenge and use your power of the mind. Because, isn't it true that the moment you seed doubt in your mind, your mind is not convinced? The little voice in the back - is it really true? Can it happen? I am the only one, how and why should it happen to me?
This is what sets you up for failure. It is this the cerebral thinking that engulfs us in doubt and yes, even me, from time to time.
This is why I like to read those articles that outline these fantastic stories about healthy and other miracles.
Like the one below, copied from the British Daily Mail. I copy them because sooner or later, they will disappear from public view. But then, I can still find them again.
Enjoy:
"I cured myself of MSBy LISA SEWARDS, Daily Mail 09:25am 4th July 2006"
Conventional medicines says multiple sclerosis is incurable. This man insists he beat it with diet, ancient Chinese exercises and mind over matter. Wishful thinking - or truly extraordinary breakthrough?
In 1998, Dermot O'Connor, 36, from Dublin, was diagnosed with a severe form of multiple sclerosis (MS) - the 'incurable' and degenerative neurological disorder.
He left his job to dedicate himself to fighting the condition. Eight years later, in perfect health and symptom-free, he has written a book telling how he achieved this through nutrition, acupuncture and forms of mind and body medicine.
As an international banking consultant, Dermot O'Connor was chronically stressed, short on sleep and always running late. But he was used to being in control. Imagine his horror when he made the first phone call of the day from his office in 1998 and heard himself slur: 'Hello, itsch Dermoch O'Connor, can I schpeak with Carlosh?' His colleagues laughed. 'What have you been drinking?' they joked. 'I hadn't been drinking, so I put it down to tiredness,' recalls Dermot. But he spent the rest of the day trying not to speak, then got an early night.
'The next day I heard the words: "New Zealand had lost rugby's Tri-Nations Championship for the first time since its inception" on the radio. 'I put my speech to the test with that phrase. I certainly couldn't have said that the previous day. Now, after much sleep, I felt totally confident. "New Zhealand losht rugbysh Trinashions championshipsh for the firsht time sinsch itsh incepshion." My speech was even worse.
'I was terrified. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't shape my mouth correctly to pronounce the words.' The next day, Dermot flew to Germany on business, only to find his health deteriorating rapidly. At one point during a presentation he was literally struck dumb. A colleague had to step in.
Back home in Dublin, he had a series of hospital tests. At first, consultants thought he'd had a stroke, as one side of his face had dropped. But an MRI scan showed lesions on his brain and a lumbar puncture confirmed the dreadful diagnosis: multiple sclerosis. 'I felt all the energy drain from my body,' recalls Dermot. 'I was familiar with MS. I would often say that I would take any health condition ahead of MS. And here I was at the age of 29 with exactly that.
'It seemed one of the cruellest of all illnesses. Once it got a grip on you, there was no release.
You spent the rest of your life fighting a losing battle. I knew the comedian Richard Pryor had MS and was confined to a wheelchair and could barely talk.'
Multiple sclerosis is an 'incurable' degenerative disorder of the nervous system. Many symptoms first appear between the ages of 20 and 40. One in 600 people in the UK has it.
Nerve fibres are normally insulated with a protective sheath of fatty tissue called myelin. In MS, there is patchy loss and scarring of this myelin sheath, so nerve messages cannot travel normally from the brain to different parts of the body, leading to numbness, fatigue, speech or swallowing difficulties, loss of balance, blurred vision, muscle spasms and unstable walking.
'By the time I left the hospital my speech was back to normal,' Dermot says, 'so I convinced myself that nothing was wrong. Then, two weeks later, on a business trip in LA, I awoke and found that I'd lost sensation all over my body, except for a feeling of a tight band around my waist.'
Back in Dublin he saw a neurologist, who gave him a number of tests. One involved pushing and pulling against his arms. 'I was so determined to pass this test that I pushed him back so vigorously that he almost fell over,' says Dermot. 'To my mind I had performed all the tests admirably. But then he slowly took off his glasses, and said: "Listen, you have got MS." '
On average, an MS attack comes once a year. Two within two weeks suggested that Dermot had a very aggressive form. 'I was told to go away and cry and to come back the following week with any questions. As I sat in the waiting room, I could see the varying degrees of decline as people before me struggled on walking frames and in wheelchairs. I wondered how long it would be before I was wheeling myself in for my appointment.
'While medication can slow down the decline by 30 per cent, nothing can halt MS indefinitely and often this medication has side-effects and sometimes it doesn't work. The cause of MS is unknown, which makes it more difficult to come up with a cure. I thought it would be better if my life just ended.'
This feeling was reinforced when he bought books about MS: 'They seemed to be just guidebooks to decline - detailing all the ghastly symptoms including being wheelchair-bound and, finally, facing death.
'I developed a morning ritual where I would test each of my faculties to confirm which had declined and by how much. Sure enough, as each day passed, my legs got weaker, my eyesight seemed worse and I was developing pain sensations all over my body.
'I remember when my foot fell asleep and I was stricken with fear. Was I about to lose my ability to walk? As feeling and movement came back into my leg, I was momentarily relieved. But worst was the fear of the unknown.
'It was as if a giant was holding me in his palm, about to close his hand and crush the very life out of me at any point he chose.'
Dermot started to look at his lifestyle. He had been filling every minute of every day with work, lectures and study, then exercising by running or lifting weights well into the early hours of the morning, collapsing into bed around 4am.
For the previous seven years, he had worked in more than 70 countries, hopping in and out of time zones, fighting off jet-lag to perform under high pressure conditions.
He frequently gorged on junk food - colleagues called him 'the human dustbin'. He also felt 'emotionally' unhealthy: whenever he felt that he had suffered an injustice, he would harbour a huge amount of resentment - just as he did after being diagnosed with MS.
'I knew I needed quickly to make myself mentally stronger,' he recalls.
So he turned to various 'alternative' disciplines, including Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), which 'reprogrammes' the brain to change negative thoughts. He also studied the work of Irish hypnotherapist Dr Sean Collins.
Dr Collins was researching the effect of the mind on the body and had just completed his first book Tipping The Scales. He argued that while making one change to your life might not be enough to conquer an illness, the cumulative effect of various changes could tip the balance in your favour.
The first change Dermot made was to take up Shengong — a Chinese form of meditation. Then he changed his diet, cutting down on saturated fats and eating more whole foods and oily fish, an approach devised by American neurologist Dr Roy Swank.
'Within three weeks of changing my eating habits, I noticed some dramatic changes in my health,' says Dermot.
'My energy levels became higher, my thoughts were clearer, my memory improved and I started to sleep better at night. Critically, the numbness in my body from the previous MS attack waned and eventually disappeared.'
To Dermot, it seemed the original diagnosis had been turned on its head. He went back to his neurologist six months later and was told it was a temporary remission. Dermot never went back.
The next time he and his neurologist met, they were sharing a platform at an MS Society conference where they were clearly from opposite schools of thought.
'He came from the angle that MS sufferers can get temporary relief from drugs, but it is simply incurable,' says Dermot.
'I believe I didn't get into remission from rapid deterioration by chance. I believe I have actively created my remission. In just six months, I was measurably fitter, faster and stronger. My energy was higher than I had ever known it before, and I had increased mental clarity. Not only was I symptom-free, but I was in the best physical shape I'd been in for almost ten years.'
Dermot continued to study alternative approaches, training as an acupuncturist, dietary therapist and NLP master practitioner.
He also studied Chi Kung, a form of exercise, at Xi Yuan hospital in Beijing, the leading Chinese medicine hospital. 'I witnessed very sick people at Xi Yuan hospital move, breathe and meditate themselves back to health,' claims Dermot.
'From all this, I put together the pieces of the jigsaw to create the foundations of what I call the Healing Code.'
He has now left banking and opened clinics in Dublin and London. He claims success with illnesses ranging from serious conditions such as Parkinson's disease to chronic migraine.
It is now eight years since Dermot was diagnosed with MS. He claims his health has improved year on year and that he remains symptom-free.
Dermot appears to have confounded the prognosis. The history of medicine is full of stories of patients who defy expectations.
As Lucy Jeanes, of the Royal College of General Practitioners, explains: 'Self-empowerment and lack of stress is almost always therapeutic in chronic conditions.'
MS experts also point out that remission from the disease can last for many years.
And while Dermot himself was was not on medication, health professionals get worried when patients use alternative treatments to the detriment of conventional treatment.
Dermot's story is 'inspiring', says Matthew Trainer, spokesman for the Multiple Sclerosis Society. 'He has certainly found an approach that works for him. Every person's experience of MS is different.
'Seven out of ten people with MS have tried a complementary therapy. Some find benefits in them, but we recommend you consult your doctor to make sure these therapies are not to the detriment of any mainstream treatment.'
Lucy Jeanes agrees: 'It is essential that these treatments are used with conventional medical treatments and not instead of them.'
For Dermot, the first vital step is to understand and perfect the psychology of health recovery: 'So we begin implementing the Healing Code with a question: Is your mind ready to be well?'
Here are the reader comments:
I have been on a gluten, soy and corn free diet for about one year and the changes have been tremendous. Slowly but surely, without the useless medications (they call it), you do get though the maze.- Rose Lopez, Chicago, Il, USA
As a sufferer myself I absolutely agree that a healthy diet, stress free living and positive attitude will result in an improvement in your MS. However to say it will cure it is pie in the sky. Mr O'Connor has a lot to gain by making these absurd claims. If he is 'cured' I suggest he never had MS in the first place, alternatively he may have had a benign form which does not progress.- L, Dublin, Ireland
Brilliant story which offers more evidence that there are no incurable illnesses only incurable people. As most doctors rubbish any form of complementary therapy, asking what they think abut a specific treatment will not result in an unbiased opinion.- Diana, Geneva
It is a good story, and from Mr O'Connor's perspective it has had an amazing outcome that defies usual expectations for this disease. But usual does not mean always, and assuming that the original diagnosis was correct he may well have had one of the forms of MS that spontaneously show no signs of progression after the initial attacks - a not uncommon clinical scenario. - D, Blackpool, UK
Well done Dermot, he has taken his health into his own hands and is now symptom free. I find it patronising that so called health experts think they know more about his body than he does. He has found various techniques that work for him and that's fantastic. The fact that they are "alternative" is all the better in my view.What a lovely story! Jo, Tunbridge Wells
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These dis-eases are then often beaten by using the power of the mind together with a major change in lifestyle. Are these accidents only? Is the power of the mind THAT powerful?
Well, why not believe it? This question is the main challenge to beating your challenge and use your power of the mind. Because, isn't it true that the moment you seed doubt in your mind, your mind is not convinced? The little voice in the back - is it really true? Can it happen? I am the only one, how and why should it happen to me?
This is what sets you up for failure. It is this the cerebral thinking that engulfs us in doubt and yes, even me, from time to time.
This is why I like to read those articles that outline these fantastic stories about healthy and other miracles.
Like the one below, copied from the British Daily Mail. I copy them because sooner or later, they will disappear from public view. But then, I can still find them again.
Enjoy:
"I cured myself of MSBy LISA SEWARDS, Daily Mail 09:25am 4th July 2006"
Conventional medicines says multiple sclerosis is incurable. This man insists he beat it with diet, ancient Chinese exercises and mind over matter. Wishful thinking - or truly extraordinary breakthrough?
In 1998, Dermot O'Connor, 36, from Dublin, was diagnosed with a severe form of multiple sclerosis (MS) - the 'incurable' and degenerative neurological disorder.
He left his job to dedicate himself to fighting the condition. Eight years later, in perfect health and symptom-free, he has written a book telling how he achieved this through nutrition, acupuncture and forms of mind and body medicine.
As an international banking consultant, Dermot O'Connor was chronically stressed, short on sleep and always running late. But he was used to being in control. Imagine his horror when he made the first phone call of the day from his office in 1998 and heard himself slur: 'Hello, itsch Dermoch O'Connor, can I schpeak with Carlosh?' His colleagues laughed. 'What have you been drinking?' they joked. 'I hadn't been drinking, so I put it down to tiredness,' recalls Dermot. But he spent the rest of the day trying not to speak, then got an early night.
'The next day I heard the words: "New Zealand had lost rugby's Tri-Nations Championship for the first time since its inception" on the radio. 'I put my speech to the test with that phrase. I certainly couldn't have said that the previous day. Now, after much sleep, I felt totally confident. "New Zhealand losht rugbysh Trinashions championshipsh for the firsht time sinsch itsh incepshion." My speech was even worse.
'I was terrified. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't shape my mouth correctly to pronounce the words.' The next day, Dermot flew to Germany on business, only to find his health deteriorating rapidly. At one point during a presentation he was literally struck dumb. A colleague had to step in.
Back home in Dublin, he had a series of hospital tests. At first, consultants thought he'd had a stroke, as one side of his face had dropped. But an MRI scan showed lesions on his brain and a lumbar puncture confirmed the dreadful diagnosis: multiple sclerosis. 'I felt all the energy drain from my body,' recalls Dermot. 'I was familiar with MS. I would often say that I would take any health condition ahead of MS. And here I was at the age of 29 with exactly that.
'It seemed one of the cruellest of all illnesses. Once it got a grip on you, there was no release.
You spent the rest of your life fighting a losing battle. I knew the comedian Richard Pryor had MS and was confined to a wheelchair and could barely talk.'
Multiple sclerosis is an 'incurable' degenerative disorder of the nervous system. Many symptoms first appear between the ages of 20 and 40. One in 600 people in the UK has it.
Nerve fibres are normally insulated with a protective sheath of fatty tissue called myelin. In MS, there is patchy loss and scarring of this myelin sheath, so nerve messages cannot travel normally from the brain to different parts of the body, leading to numbness, fatigue, speech or swallowing difficulties, loss of balance, blurred vision, muscle spasms and unstable walking.
'By the time I left the hospital my speech was back to normal,' Dermot says, 'so I convinced myself that nothing was wrong. Then, two weeks later, on a business trip in LA, I awoke and found that I'd lost sensation all over my body, except for a feeling of a tight band around my waist.'
Back in Dublin he saw a neurologist, who gave him a number of tests. One involved pushing and pulling against his arms. 'I was so determined to pass this test that I pushed him back so vigorously that he almost fell over,' says Dermot. 'To my mind I had performed all the tests admirably. But then he slowly took off his glasses, and said: "Listen, you have got MS." '
On average, an MS attack comes once a year. Two within two weeks suggested that Dermot had a very aggressive form. 'I was told to go away and cry and to come back the following week with any questions. As I sat in the waiting room, I could see the varying degrees of decline as people before me struggled on walking frames and in wheelchairs. I wondered how long it would be before I was wheeling myself in for my appointment.
'While medication can slow down the decline by 30 per cent, nothing can halt MS indefinitely and often this medication has side-effects and sometimes it doesn't work. The cause of MS is unknown, which makes it more difficult to come up with a cure. I thought it would be better if my life just ended.'
This feeling was reinforced when he bought books about MS: 'They seemed to be just guidebooks to decline - detailing all the ghastly symptoms including being wheelchair-bound and, finally, facing death.
'I developed a morning ritual where I would test each of my faculties to confirm which had declined and by how much. Sure enough, as each day passed, my legs got weaker, my eyesight seemed worse and I was developing pain sensations all over my body.
'I remember when my foot fell asleep and I was stricken with fear. Was I about to lose my ability to walk? As feeling and movement came back into my leg, I was momentarily relieved. But worst was the fear of the unknown.
'It was as if a giant was holding me in his palm, about to close his hand and crush the very life out of me at any point he chose.'
Dermot started to look at his lifestyle. He had been filling every minute of every day with work, lectures and study, then exercising by running or lifting weights well into the early hours of the morning, collapsing into bed around 4am.
For the previous seven years, he had worked in more than 70 countries, hopping in and out of time zones, fighting off jet-lag to perform under high pressure conditions.
He frequently gorged on junk food - colleagues called him 'the human dustbin'. He also felt 'emotionally' unhealthy: whenever he felt that he had suffered an injustice, he would harbour a huge amount of resentment - just as he did after being diagnosed with MS.
'I knew I needed quickly to make myself mentally stronger,' he recalls.
So he turned to various 'alternative' disciplines, including Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), which 'reprogrammes' the brain to change negative thoughts. He also studied the work of Irish hypnotherapist Dr Sean Collins.
Dr Collins was researching the effect of the mind on the body and had just completed his first book Tipping The Scales. He argued that while making one change to your life might not be enough to conquer an illness, the cumulative effect of various changes could tip the balance in your favour.
The first change Dermot made was to take up Shengong — a Chinese form of meditation. Then he changed his diet, cutting down on saturated fats and eating more whole foods and oily fish, an approach devised by American neurologist Dr Roy Swank.
'Within three weeks of changing my eating habits, I noticed some dramatic changes in my health,' says Dermot.
'My energy levels became higher, my thoughts were clearer, my memory improved and I started to sleep better at night. Critically, the numbness in my body from the previous MS attack waned and eventually disappeared.'
To Dermot, it seemed the original diagnosis had been turned on its head. He went back to his neurologist six months later and was told it was a temporary remission. Dermot never went back.
The next time he and his neurologist met, they were sharing a platform at an MS Society conference where they were clearly from opposite schools of thought.
'He came from the angle that MS sufferers can get temporary relief from drugs, but it is simply incurable,' says Dermot.
'I believe I didn't get into remission from rapid deterioration by chance. I believe I have actively created my remission. In just six months, I was measurably fitter, faster and stronger. My energy was higher than I had ever known it before, and I had increased mental clarity. Not only was I symptom-free, but I was in the best physical shape I'd been in for almost ten years.'
Dermot continued to study alternative approaches, training as an acupuncturist, dietary therapist and NLP master practitioner.
He also studied Chi Kung, a form of exercise, at Xi Yuan hospital in Beijing, the leading Chinese medicine hospital. 'I witnessed very sick people at Xi Yuan hospital move, breathe and meditate themselves back to health,' claims Dermot.
'From all this, I put together the pieces of the jigsaw to create the foundations of what I call the Healing Code.'
He has now left banking and opened clinics in Dublin and London. He claims success with illnesses ranging from serious conditions such as Parkinson's disease to chronic migraine.
It is now eight years since Dermot was diagnosed with MS. He claims his health has improved year on year and that he remains symptom-free.
Dermot appears to have confounded the prognosis. The history of medicine is full of stories of patients who defy expectations.
As Lucy Jeanes, of the Royal College of General Practitioners, explains: 'Self-empowerment and lack of stress is almost always therapeutic in chronic conditions.'
MS experts also point out that remission from the disease can last for many years.
And while Dermot himself was was not on medication, health professionals get worried when patients use alternative treatments to the detriment of conventional treatment.
Dermot's story is 'inspiring', says Matthew Trainer, spokesman for the Multiple Sclerosis Society. 'He has certainly found an approach that works for him. Every person's experience of MS is different.
'Seven out of ten people with MS have tried a complementary therapy. Some find benefits in them, but we recommend you consult your doctor to make sure these therapies are not to the detriment of any mainstream treatment.'
Lucy Jeanes agrees: 'It is essential that these treatments are used with conventional medical treatments and not instead of them.'
For Dermot, the first vital step is to understand and perfect the psychology of health recovery: 'So we begin implementing the Healing Code with a question: Is your mind ready to be well?'
Here are the reader comments:
I have been on a gluten, soy and corn free diet for about one year and the changes have been tremendous. Slowly but surely, without the useless medications (they call it), you do get though the maze.- Rose Lopez, Chicago, Il, USA
As a sufferer myself I absolutely agree that a healthy diet, stress free living and positive attitude will result in an improvement in your MS. However to say it will cure it is pie in the sky. Mr O'Connor has a lot to gain by making these absurd claims. If he is 'cured' I suggest he never had MS in the first place, alternatively he may have had a benign form which does not progress.- L, Dublin, Ireland
Brilliant story which offers more evidence that there are no incurable illnesses only incurable people. As most doctors rubbish any form of complementary therapy, asking what they think abut a specific treatment will not result in an unbiased opinion.- Diana, Geneva
It is a good story, and from Mr O'Connor's perspective it has had an amazing outcome that defies usual expectations for this disease. But usual does not mean always, and assuming that the original diagnosis was correct he may well have had one of the forms of MS that spontaneously show no signs of progression after the initial attacks - a not uncommon clinical scenario. - D, Blackpool, UK
Well done Dermot, he has taken his health into his own hands and is now symptom free. I find it patronising that so called health experts think they know more about his body than he does. He has found various techniques that work for him and that's fantastic. The fact that they are "alternative" is all the better in my view.What a lovely story! Jo, Tunbridge Wells
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