Different people react to different signals from the outside world. Those triggers might trigger the urge to purchase things that are actually not needed. That is the reason why there is the smell of perfume in the air in a perfumery - it opens the mind and makes buying easier.
For me, it is the smell of books in a bookshop. I get carried away and buy too many books. No more, buy the way, since I untrained me. Now I can enjoy the books in a bookshop and go out without buying one.
It is like this in anything we do. We have strategies to follow through, or little mental programs. something triggers something in us and off we go, to buy porn magazines, perfumes, shirts, trousers. Or go for gambling, the night out with the guys and so on.
Ever thought of that?
(NLP in Asia)
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Saturday, October 15, 2005
Fasting - a second thought
I had an interesting conversation the other day with one HR manager about fasting, something I wrote about earlier. He had diabetes and was very overweight when he was younger but learnt to go without food for a long time.
In a discussion about Ramadan and the fasing of Muslims, he mentioned that it could be that the brain is trained to expect a certain period in a year where food only comes in in the evening. Interesting - could there be some truth in it? The first couple of days of fasting are tough, but then, through group pressure and awareness campaigns, people get used to the fasting again. Inside their brains, the neurons might lit up and get ready for a period without food.
In the evening, after the break of fast, the brain gets the signal that it can feast again. The urge for cigarettes, for food, for the usual "earthly pleasures" comes back.
Think about it!
nlp
mind
personal change
In a discussion about Ramadan and the fasing of Muslims, he mentioned that it could be that the brain is trained to expect a certain period in a year where food only comes in in the evening. Interesting - could there be some truth in it? The first couple of days of fasting are tough, but then, through group pressure and awareness campaigns, people get used to the fasting again. Inside their brains, the neurons might lit up and get ready for a period without food.
In the evening, after the break of fast, the brain gets the signal that it can feast again. The urge for cigarettes, for food, for the usual "earthly pleasures" comes back.
Think about it!
nlp
mind
personal change
Monday, October 10, 2005
To implement changes, you need repetition in the process
Yesterday, I wrote that we are all running on programs that are neurologically entrenched in our brain. In order to make change successful, one needs to implement those changes neurologically as well. Overlay the old area in the brain containing the old program, so to speak.
Life Coach Ann Martin says that to form a habit, one only needs to repeat the process 27 times or to go on 3 weeks continuously (as stated in The Mirror, October 7, 2005).
Change is that easy!
(NLP in Asia)
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Life Coach Ann Martin says that to form a habit, one only needs to repeat the process 27 times or to go on 3 weeks continuously (as stated in The Mirror, October 7, 2005).
Change is that easy!
(NLP in Asia)
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mind
personal change
The mind reacts to shocks
There is the story of this 17 year old Singaporean girl in the newspaper today.
Heartbroken as she was after her boyfriend broke off with her she had sex with 60 strangers in the past eight months.
The newspaper writes that "the 17-year-old girl did it to get even with her boyfriend, after he met another girl online. The jilted teenager, too, found her men on the Net by posting her photos, personal particulars and the type of man she was looking for."
This clearly is a reaction of the mind to the shock of the breakup. No one should blame the girl, since mental counseling would be more beneficial. The sad part will be that she probably gets more scolding than counseling.
(NLP in Asia)
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Heartbroken as she was after her boyfriend broke off with her she had sex with 60 strangers in the past eight months.
The newspaper writes that "the 17-year-old girl did it to get even with her boyfriend, after he met another girl online. The jilted teenager, too, found her men on the Net by posting her photos, personal particulars and the type of man she was looking for."
This clearly is a reaction of the mind to the shock of the breakup. No one should blame the girl, since mental counseling would be more beneficial. The sad part will be that she probably gets more scolding than counseling.
(NLP in Asia)
nlp
mind
personal change
Sunday, October 09, 2005
Fasting - or the destruction of mental programs
It's Ramadan or fasting time in Malaysia, and across the Islamic world. Muslims are suppose to abstain from anything related to food, drinks, and "bad" thoughts from early in the morning till sunset. A long time for many. In addition, they are required to do good deeds to those around them and far away. A major task indeed.
Let me outline my thinking around this.
We are all running on mental programs. When you think you think and act consciously, think again. It is said that the moment you do more than one thing at a time, you run parts of it unconsciously. I would say that more than 90% of the time, we are running our own little mental programs.
Don't believe it?
Check, when you get up in the morning. With whom you go for lunch, diner, have your coffee. How you brush your teeth. When you stroke your hair, clean your teeth, have your cigarette, coffee, or chocolade. How you drive, how you react to your boss approaching your desk, when you watch TV and how and so on. Over time, you will see that there is repetition - you have created your own mental program.
Nothing wrong with that - it helps you to get through the day. To change, you need to change your program. And it is here where the fasting sets in.
I drink way too much coffee - about 6 big cups a day. Now I don't. Of course I miss it. Miss it dearly at 9.00 AM, 11.00 AM, after lunch, at 4.00 PM, at 5.30 PM and the ones in between, not accounted for.
Succeeding at fasting means changing my mental progam, initiating change, destroying and rewarding myself by being grateful that I am able to change. That, for me, is one of the essence of Ramadan as well.
(NLP in Asia)
nlp
mind
personal change
Let me outline my thinking around this.
We are all running on mental programs. When you think you think and act consciously, think again. It is said that the moment you do more than one thing at a time, you run parts of it unconsciously. I would say that more than 90% of the time, we are running our own little mental programs.
Don't believe it?
Check, when you get up in the morning. With whom you go for lunch, diner, have your coffee. How you brush your teeth. When you stroke your hair, clean your teeth, have your cigarette, coffee, or chocolade. How you drive, how you react to your boss approaching your desk, when you watch TV and how and so on. Over time, you will see that there is repetition - you have created your own mental program.
Nothing wrong with that - it helps you to get through the day. To change, you need to change your program. And it is here where the fasting sets in.
I drink way too much coffee - about 6 big cups a day. Now I don't. Of course I miss it. Miss it dearly at 9.00 AM, 11.00 AM, after lunch, at 4.00 PM, at 5.30 PM and the ones in between, not accounted for.
Succeeding at fasting means changing my mental progam, initiating change, destroying and rewarding myself by being grateful that I am able to change. That, for me, is one of the essence of Ramadan as well.
(NLP in Asia)
nlp
mind
personal change
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