If something disturbs you, it can only be you!

Now, this is hardcore NLP and language of the mind. So bear with me, but please be aware that it can also challenge your own thinking.

Let me explain:

One person, let's call him Ted, is doing something, anything, say, like ..... , okay, I make it easy - resting in the office chair. Sitting there, not doing anything, but looking into "thin air".

An executive, called Annie, walks by and says; "What's up Ted, lazy today? Nothing to do?"

Another executive, Sammy, seeing this, chips in: "No, lah, Annie, Ted is just relaxing for a while. He is so incredibly busy."

The same situation, perceived differently.

What is happening?

When I coach or give training, and explain the working of the mind to people, I ask them: "Can you do: "tryeidnduar" for me? Show to the others how you would do a "tryeidnduar"."

I get blank stares. Why? Simple because "tryeidnduar" is a word that does not exist!! Nobody taught you, and you have not thought about it, until I mention "tryeidnduar". This is important, okay!! It was not in your mind at all.


Let's now return to Ted, and his perceived laziness or busi-ness. It is the same story, you know!! If Annie wouldn't have experienced laziness in her own life, if she wouldn't be able to relate to it, she wouldn't know what to call Ted. Because she doesn't know what laziness is.

What is laziness if you have never experienced it!!

Same with Sammy - he knows that this is relaxing, because he knows how to relax.

Got it?

It is in you, it is something VERY, VERY close to you, so be careful when you label people.

In fact, do I dare to say (and I do!!):

If you call people names, offend or insult them, it is in you - may be it is you, in fact!!

If you compliment people on their behaviour, it is also in you.

When we were small, we were told that anytime, we point with the finger to someone and blame the person, at least three fingers would point back to us. Now that is a true saying.

The next time, you feel like cursing and swearing at someone, have a good laughter!! Because, as said, this feeling that goes with it is inside of you. Hahahaha.

(NLP in Asia)

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